Getting over a breakup – The Do’s and Don’ts
Getting over a breakup can be really tough, especially if you have been associated with your ex girlfriend for a longer period of time. When the love of your ex have found its root deeper in your heart and you have planned your whole life with that very person - a breakup at this time will make you think that you will never be able to recover from this heartbreaking event of your life. For a matter of fact, I had the same opinion when I broke up with my ex girlfriend; She was literally MY LIFE and for a moment I thought that I am going to die without her. Now, I think I was a fool.
Getting over a breakup is not that hard to do…
If you want relive your life then you must learn how to get over a breakup. There are multiple mistakes that people do right after the breakup that makes the situation more and more complicated. But you can prevent all of those if you will stick to a few simple rules that I’ll deploy to you in a few seconds…
Here are some of those biggest mistakes that people commit while getting over a breakup and frankly speaking, I committed many of them when I was trying to learn how to get over a breakup. I will follow this post with a brief description of the Do’s and Don’ts while trying to get over a breakup.
The Do’s:
1. When you think you can not handle it alone, get the help. Help can be in any form, for example - reading this very article, sharing your thoughts with a dearest friend, a close family member or even a relationship therapist. You can’t ensure that they will give you priceless tips on how to get over a breakup, but this is rather about sharing the burden that you have been bearing on your shoulders for so long.
2. Can you enjoy being single? Yes, you have not always been committed. There are plenty of good things in being single as well - ask those who have a girlfriend that pokes her nose in your every matter…
3. Try some breakup songs and ex girlfriend quotes - they really work. I was actually stirred by a startling breakup quote and eventually ended up having a new breakup quote each day as the wallpaper of my laptop, for a whole month.
The Don’ts:
1. You need nothing but positive self-affirmation. If you broke up with your girlfriend then it was not your fault. Do not feel guilty or think that you are responsible for it.
2. Getting over a breakup should not take more than a few weeks. Try not to contact your ex girlfriend - texting her or sending her an email will do nothing but bring some more disgrace to you.
3. Getting locked in a room and disturbing a diet has never helped anyone in getting over a breakup. Trust me, I tried it many times before… Why don’t you start taking part in sports or start taking evening classes for a program that you once longed for?
And here are some more useful breakup do’s and dont’s from the wonderful Dr. Greg Cason…
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HI John, thanks for visiting my diy site. I saw your last post and came over for a visit because I also run a relationship blog, but from the woman’s perspective. Incidentally, I’ve got a post very much like this one, but targeted to women instead of men.
I have to disagree with you when you say getting over a break-up shouldn’t take more than a few weeks. It can take longer than this – much longer, especially if you really loved the person.
The deeper you loved, the deeper the creases in your heart takes to heal if there’s a break-up. I had a guy tell me just recently that after 7 months he’s still suffering.